Top Ranked "Best for Divorce" Resolution - Attorneys & Mediators
Searching for divorce mediators or attorneys? Settle the Dispute Group has written extensively about the divorce mediation process, how divorce mediation works, and what you need to know if you're contemplating getting a divorce.
Our expert family law mediators can help you establish a peaceful, amicable divorce agreement that resolves family disputes such as the distribution of property, child custody and maintenance, alimony, retirement and tax issues.
Our official list of best divorce mediators:
Settle the Dispute Group's Judges and Mediators - Awarded Best in Class - 3 years in a row.
The most important steps before you begin the divorce process:
#1 Meet with an attorney or mediator with Settle the Dispute Group.
#2 Establish a written plan of what you need & want to live the remainder of your life, happily.
#3 Prioritize the most important necessities vs. the wants in your life.
#4 Create a monthly budget and list of assets.
#5 Schedule a weekend divorce mediation with Settle the Dispute Group by completing the form below.
Top 10 Divorce Mediation Strategies
Any divorce is a tragedy, but mediation at least allows divorcing couples to end the marriage in the most agreeable way possible. If you and your partner want to mediate a divorce, make sure to:
1. Mediate First; File Later
As Trace Adkins fans know, divorce is hard enough without false hope. When the famous country singer's wife dismissed her divorce filing, many fans thought the two had salvaged their marriage. In fact, they had only agreed to use mediation services, filing for divorce again once the mediator was finished. You should thus avoid filing for divorce until after mediation.
2. Start by Identifying What Isn't Negotiable
It's important to go into divorce mediation with a clear sense of what is and is not negotiable. When Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise mediated their divorce, Kidman made it clear from the start that she did not want her children raised as scientologists. This made it harder for Cruise to talk her out of it.
3. Prepare Emotionally
Because mediation involves talking with your spouse face-to-face, it is often more emotionally difficult than a formal court setting. Make sure to practice interacting with your spouse ahead of time, and consider receiving professional counseling.
4. Document Diligently
As in any legal matter, you are most likely to succeed in a mediated divorce or separation if you have strong evidence, so keep careful records of everything related to your marriage. Financial records are particularly important, as they help establish whether something is a marital asset.
5. Take Care When Choosing a Mediator
Though collaborative law is meant to be a neutral process, mediators do have biases, so avoid picking one who will side unfairly with your spouse. Interview multiple mediators, talk to their past clients, and choose one who has a history of making decisions that benefit both parties.
6. Demand More Than You Need
Though it may seem counterintuitive, asking for more than you need or deserve will actually help you seem more reasonable. This is because it will leave you room to make concessions, showing your spouse that you are willing to negotiate. By contrast, if you ask for only what you need, you won't be able to concede anything and will thus appear unreasonable.
7. Be Sensitive
Mediation is a negotiation, so it is important to show sensitivity to your spouse's emotional needs. Make your demands in a firm but kind manner, and if your spouse feels that you are being unfair, discuss it with him or her amicably. A little empathy goes a long way.
8. Collaborate on a Custody Schedule
Children and divorce never mix well, but through careful planning, you can keep your kids' pain to a minimum. When mediating child custody, address all holidays, family get-togethers, and other events throughout the year, and come up with an equitable schedule. The more time your children get to spend with both parents, the less emotional trouble there will be and the more likely the agreement is to succeed.
9. Prioritize Prudently
Even when considering the things that you don't think you can live with out, it helps to rank them in order of importance. This way, if you end up having to concede something you considered non-negotiable, you can at least make it as painless as possible.
10. Practice Your Responses
Assuming that you know your spouse fairly well, you should be able to accurately anticipate what he or she will say or do during mediation. Practice responding in a way that is rational and clear-headed and you'll have an easier time making your case.
Divorce is never easy, but Settle the Dispute Group strives to make it as painless as possible. For more information on arbitration, mediation, and collaborative law - our divorce mediators can get you to a better settlement today.